Outside/In – A Contemporary Tale of Happiness

I recently viewed the Disney-Pixar movie Inside/Out with my six year-old nephew.  It’s the story of a little girl named Riley and her dynamic inner world of feelings an personality. The film is an interesting, albeit elementary, illustration of human psychology.  It does, however, explore the nagging question of how much of our psychology, including how we feel, is pre-ordained and how much of it is constructed over time.  Of course the answer is both but the film’s supposition is that feelings, including happiness, are mostly an inside out phenomenon.  Though, if you look closer, the upheaval of emotions at the center of Riley’s story is the result of life-altering changes to her environment: she’s forced to relocate from the Midwest to San Francisco and leave the social ties and activities that were primary sources of joy.  Now que anger.

The social loss and subsequent sadness and anger that Riley experienced as a result of her move may similarly plague the lives of older adults.  Social support has been shown to have as much effect on life expectancy as smoking, high blood pressure, obesity, and regular physical activity. The Harvard School of Public Health and its 80-year study of adult development hypothesized that social isolation may create a chronically stressful condition to which the individual responds by aging faster.  In fact, Elderly people who live alone, have no friends, or have poor relationships with their children are 60% more likely to develop dementia than those with satisfying social contact (Wilson et al., 2014)  I could go on but I think you get the picture.

Now for the good news!  It turns out that happiness, a direct descendent of social connection, is a significant source of health in older age.  In a seminal study of very happy people, Diener and Seligman (2002) sought out the happiest 10% among us and found that one variable distinguished that happiest from everybody else: the correlation between happiness and social support was 0.7; research findings are considered significant when they hit 0.3.  A study conducted by Danner and associates (2001) reviewed the journal entries of 170 Sisters of Notre Dame.  Ninety-percent of those with happy entries lived to be over 85; only 34% of those with unhappy entries lived that long.  In another study that looked at the correlation between happiness and cognition, authors found that participants who were primed to either feel amusement or contentment experienced an increase in processing speed and memory recall in contrast to the control group (Master et al., 1979).  It turns out that happiness does a body good!

Older adult clients and community members frequently ask me what they can do to live happier more fulfilled lives; lives that can be negatively impacted by the persistent loss of people and physical function in older age.  There are several potential solutions but I invite the reader to consider taking specific actions to cultivate happiness from the outside in.  Studies continue to make evident the importance of a happiness regimen – spending more time on social, physical, and cognitive activities that make us feel good.  Note the word regimen.  Happiness requires intentionality and purpose.  In his popular book The Happiness Advantage, Shaun Achor suggested individuals focus on one or two happiness behaviors for 20-30 minutes each day for 21 days.  Happiness behaviors might include meditation, conscious acts of kindness, exercising a signature strength, and finding something to look forward to.  A website aptly titled The Pursuit of Happiness list the 7 habits of happy people, including – you guessed it – relationships.  But happiness is not solely for the extroverted.  Gratitude, spiritual engagement, physical exercise, and acts of kindness are all pathways to happiness.  The question is, what path are you able and motivated to take?  To learn more about cultivating happiness and vitality from the outside in and developing a specific plan of action, you might join me for a free lecture on Friday, August 24th from 11a-1p.  To register, you can email me directly at dhart@abc-seniors.com.  Wishing each of you pleasure, engagement, and meaning in your everyday lives!

Some of us know the power of depression and its ability to deplete our motivation self-esteem.  If you feel as if you need support in cultivating happiness in your life and/or managing feelings of sadness, hopelessness, anxiety, or anger, please reach out to somebody you trust.  A clergy member, counselor, social worker, nurse, psychologist, or physician may be sources of support.  You may also call the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) at 1-800-662-HELP (4357). 
Source: Hart2Heart

The Benefits of Private Personal Trainers Kelowna

Are you feeling fall fabulous Kelowna? If not, don’t worry, OneLife Health & Fitness can help you transform your physique and lead a healthier, happier lifestyle. Our team of committed personal trainers has the knowledge, experience and desire to help you attain your goals. Key benefits of working with a personal trainer include:

  • Faster Results
  • Staying Motivated
  • Learning Proper Technique
  • Less Chance of Injury


Whether you are preparing for one of the Okanagan’s stellar marathons, training for a New Year’s Day brisk Polar Bear dip or challenging yourself to conquer the Rattlesnake Island swim next year, we can help! Understanding your personal goals and your health history allows us to develop a customized workout unlike ever before. We can target those tricky areas and keep the motivation high. It can be tempting to follow someone’s YouTube promises and copy workouts that you enjoy; however, technique is everything. One wrong lunge with weights or incorrectly using your knees can lead to a host of detrimental side effects. Personal trainers Kelowna! This is the secret to your success.



Perhaps, you have a nagging injury that has not fully healed. Listening to your body during the training process is essential for your recovery and your progression. While it can be tempting to jam cram so many workouts into your tight schedule, if you are not taking adequate time to rest and recharge, you are not doing yourself any favors. Your newly expanded muscle tissue will feel sore and achy as the muscle fibers essentially tear and rebuild. Caution needs to be exercised during your workouts to ensure you are not overtraining. Our committed and professional team of private personal trainers knows the signs and symptoms to look for. Be honest during your sessions to ensure we can deliver the right information.


Many of our clients are thrilled to discover a plethora of positive side effects from their personal training sessions. From feeling more energized during the day, to sleeping better at night, you will most likely develop stronger focus and better hand and eye coordination over time. It IS possible to teach ourselves new tips and tricks. You will notice that that old staircase that used to leave you winded is no longer an issue, once your stamina and cardiovascular capacity grows.



It can be easy to try and remain at full throttle, particularly when you have an event coming up that you are hoping to look and feel your best for. Be sure to give yourself a realistic time frame to achieve your goals. We will discuss your timelines and give you the best options to meet your target. Our team can help you create individual meal plans and offers nutritional counselling as well, in the event you would like to take things to the next level. Understanding how our metabolism and our dietary choices affect our end result is vital. While you may notice muscle tone developing sooner rather than later, everyone reacts differently to changes in their activity levels. Be patient with yourself and your workout partner if it takes you longer to get going than you first anticipated. This is completely normal and why the archaic saying “old habits die hard,” is so popular! One Life Fitness on Spedding Court has everything you need to achieve your goals.


We invite you to check out our stellar facility and excellent team. Stop by OneLife Fitness on Spedding Court and discover everything we have to offer. Enjoy our fresh approach to personal training. We look forward to breaking into a sweat alongside you.

Source: OneLife Fitness

The Benefits of Gymnastics for Babies Toddlers

At Athletica Gymnastics in Calgary, we’ve witnessed the incredible benefits and advantages of enrolling your baby or toddler in gymnastics classesspecifically designed for their age.

From our experience and extensive knowledge of the positive correlation between gymnastics and children, we developed three levels called Gym Tots Gymnastics. The Mini class for 10-17 months, the Junior class for 18 months – 2 years, and the Senior class for 2-3 years.

Babies and toddlers are extremely impressionable and energetic. It’s the perfect time to begin teaching them healthy and social behaviours that will benefit them for life. The talented and experienced Athletica Gymnastics instructors have compiled a list of the top benefits of gymnastics for babies and toddlers.

  • Developing social skills
  • Increased coordination & motor skills
  • Emotional & cognitive intelligence
  • Growth & development
  • Building self-esteem & confidence
  • Self-discipline


Athletica Gymnastics classes create the opportunity for children to interact and work well with others. Creating strong bonds and positive social environments with peers is an important skill that allows children to develop trust, empathy, compassion and a sense of right or wrong.

In Gym Tot classes, the activities are designed to give students ample opportunity to communicate and work together, while having fun and improving their mental and physical development.


One of the most important skills babies and toddlers are learning to develop is their coordination and motor skills. The activities and routines practices and taught at Athletica Gymnastics are specifically designed to improve these skills in a fun environment.

Gym Tots Gymnastics is an interactive class where babies and toddlers will be led through a variety of stretches and exercises to increase motor skill development and improve their coordination. Each week, our trained instructors introduce new physical skills with a variety of interactive songs and games to strengthen these skills.


Emotional & cognitive intelligence is an important milestone in every child’s life, especially considering the growing influence of technology that can cause children to become emotionally and cognitively disconnected. It’s essential for babies and toddlers to learn how to be emotionally and mentally engaged with their surroundings.

In gymnastics, babies and toddlers learn appropriate social manners such as taking turns, respecting others, and following directions. These are all important aspects for developing strong emotional and cognitive intelligence.


Gymnastics focuses on fundamental movement patterns that help develop and strengthen posture, bones, and flexibility. The benefits of a healthy body from a young age will prevent disease and help them maintain healthy habits and routines throughout their life.

Each new activity in Gym Tots is developed to help them to gain strength, balance, coordination and better muscle control while simultaneously developing emotional intelligence, confidence, self discipline, and social skills.


Gymnastic classes at such a young age promotes and teaches the skills for long term self-control and discipline.

Self-control and discipline are incredibly valuable skills throughout life and gives them the tools to work well with others, accomplish their goals and stay on task. These are necessary skills for succeeding in school, work and social settings.


Mastering self discipline will undoubtedly lead to increased self esteem and confidence.

The discipline required to successfully learn and complete a gymnastic activity and routine gives a baby or toddler a sense of accomplishment. This teaches children from an early age that practice and hard-work pays off!

Completing these skills in front of their peers also develops a great sense of self and the confidence to perform in front of an audience.


Source: Athletica Gymnastics

3 Tips for Planning a Corporate Event

With the Christmas season quick drawing nearer, numerous Okanagan organizations are arranging client thankfulness parties, Christmas parties, and other corporate occasions. We cherish helping our customers breath life into their vision by furnishing learning and long stretches of involvement with corporate gathering rentals. We’ve accumulated a rundown of our main 3 hints to enable you to design your next corporate occasion.

Comprehend the Purpose of your Event

One of the initial phases in arranging a fruitful corporate occasion is understanding the reason for your occasion. Knowing who your group of onlookers is and what will impact them will enable you to limit whatever remains of the choices you’ll make all through the arranging procedure.

Is it accurate to say that you are arranging a Christmas party, a customer thankfulness party or a vehicle dispatch? All the accompanying inquiries you’ll ask yourself, including what corporate gathering rentals you’ll require, will be significantly less demanding to answer once you know your occasion’s motivation.

Set a Date and Location

When you know the reason for your occasion, picking an area and setting a date, and even the season of day will be significantly less demanding.

Source: All Occasions

Your Fall Corporate Retreat at The Cove Lakeside Resort

The fresh, cool air and changing leaves all through the Okanagan Valley makes fall a standout amongst the most amazing seasons. In case you’re anticipating visiting or facilitating an occasion in the Okanagan, The Cove Lakeside Resort offers the perfect setting for your corporate gathering, occasion or withdraw.

We offer a scope of settings with delightful surroundings that separate us. Regardless of whether you’re arranging an independent venture meeting or a progression of vast corporate occasions, we surpass desires to guarantee that everything about impeccable. Notwithstanding custom fitted arranging, we can orchestrate an assortment of gathering exercises for your occasion.

Source: The Cove

Fall Escape at the Outback

At Outback Lakeside Vacation Homes, we recognize the benefits of connecting with nature and taking a wellness getaway. Escape to the Outback Lakeside Vacation Homes this fall with our exclusive Fall Escape Savings. Book a vacation home for 3 nights or more and receive 15% off your entire stay. Offer available until December 20th, 2018! For longer stays, we offer exceptional savings when you stay 5 days or more. We also offer great monthly rates on select vacation homes.

Fall is one of the Okanagan’s most beautiful seasons. Take advantage of the stunning fall foliage, crisp weather and endless fall activities. Retreat to the Outback and enjoy million-dollar views from our luxurious vacation homes today with last-minute fall savings!

Source: Outback Lakeside Vacation Homes

Kelowna Optometrist Explains Nearsightedness Vs Farsightedness

You may have heard of nearsightedness and farsightedness before, but, what are they? It can be easy to get these two terms mixed up. Near and farsightedness are some of the most common issues our patients at iSight Optometry encounter. If you’re having troubles seeing things close up, or far away, it may be time to book an appointment with your Kelowna Optometrist to see if you need a new or existing prescription change.

Keep reading to find out more about nearsightedness and farsightedness, and how it may affect you.

What is Farsightedness?

How far are you holding your reading away from you these days? Has storytime with your kids become squinty time?

Farsightedness is a refractive error, meaning it has to do with how light focuses on the eye and where. The official term for farsightedness is hyperopia, and it means either the eyeball is too short or there is not enough curvature of the lens for objects to focus properly.

Source: iSight Optometry 

Dog Training Practice (with distractions) Makes Perfect!

“But he did it at home!” Is this something you have found yourself saying?

Have you ever wondered why your dog will happily sit for you when you ask, or come to you inside the house but as soon as you are in a different environment you get a “blank stare” or a “deaf ear”?

When that happens, you should realize that as soon as circumstances change everything you ask your dog to do becomes more challenging for them.  When you leave your practice room there are so many other stimuli the dog has to ignore to focus on what you are asking.

It’s kind of like learning a new language in the privacy of your home.  You know all the phrases and questions by heart, all the sentences in order. But as soon as you actually need to ask a question or respond to something on the long-planned trip, all of a sudden, the vocabulary flies out of your brain and you are reduced to a stuttering and gesticulating person who cannot think of a single word in the appropriate language when desperately trying to ask where the bathroom is.

The fact is that humans need practice in “real” circumstances and so do dogs.

So once your dog can perform a behavior reliably without any distractions you will need to up the ante by adding distractions, changing venues, adding distance or throwing toys. The more scenarios you can think of the better. Only then can you proudly say: “My dog knows what “sit” really means.”

Source: Dog Relations NYC

5 Myths About Divorce Mediation

When it comes to the complexities of filing for divorce in Canada, there is an abundance of information out there. Some of its true, some of it’s not. To help you wade through the information, we’ve compiled a list of myths about divorce mediation to help you make steps towards an agreeable divorce.


No myth may seem like a greater obstacle than this. You may not be able to stay in the same room, or even say hello to your spouse. How are you ever supposed to come together and find a solution?

This is where a divorce mediator can help.

Negotiating with your spouse can be hard. But you don’t have to do it alone. Coming to an agreement in a mature environment where all parties are engaged and working towards a solution is possible.

Years of marriage that have resulted in bottled up hurt and emotions in both parties means you may end up fighting the same old battles, again. Mediators can help keep conversations productive and focused. As a neutral third party, mediators can help you make rational decisions that are deemed fair by you, and your spouse.


Divorce mediators are not therapists. When you sign up for divorce mediation, a mediator is not in a position to attempt to reunite you and your spouse.

Couples mediation means working together to come to an agreement on all issues pertaining to a couple’s separation. It means coming to a settlement both spouses agree on.

Source: Family Mediation Center